The Latte Factor: Why You Don't Have to Be Rich to Live Rich
by
David Bach
and
John David Mann
Published 6 May 2019
But life is paradox, and sometimes the only way you can serve others is to put yourself first. You know what I mean by that?” “To be honest,” said Zoey, “I don’t.” “You know that speech they always give on airplanes, when you’re about to take off? About how, in the event there’s a problem, you should put on your own oxygen mask first and then take care of the children? It sounds backwards. You’d think they’d tell you to take care of the kids first, right? But no. Because if you pass out, you’re not going to be any good to anyone. You see?” “I . . . think so,” said Zoey. Still holding her hand, Henry placed his other hand on top of hers.
The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms
by
Danielle Laporte
Published 16 Apr 2012
Relief. In that moment, I was okay if Lance walked out on me, because something inside me had clicked into its rightful place: ruthless compassion. Yes, I was done suffering fools. No, I would not make pretty, spiritualized excuses for anyone’s bad behavior anymore—mine included. I would put on my own oxygen mask first. I would stand in my very immense power. And I would aim to do it free of vengeance, free of resentment, grateful for all that I had. Inside, I was purring like a panther in her tree. Smiling. I must have passed the test because Lance smiled right back at me. “Well, fine. That’s all we needed to know,” he said, with grounded glee.
The Cheapskate Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of Americans Living Happily Below Their Means
by
Jeff Yeager
Published 8 Jun 2010
I was having trouble putting a name to this old-school parenting style, until I sat down with Julia and Gerald Thomson and they told me stories of the parents to whom they provide financial counseling through their church. “We call it the ‘oxygen mask approach’ to raising children,” Gerald said. I must have looked a little bewildered, or at least more so than usual. “You know,” Julia said, “like in an airplane when they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping your children? At first it seems cruel or selfish, but when you think about it, ultimately it’s the best thing you can do for your kids and your family. That’s how we counsel the parents we work with to think when it comes to providing for themselves and their families, particularly when it comes to things like parents shorting their own retirement savings and financial security later in life in order to pay for their kid’s college.
Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone
by
Mark Goulston M. D.
and
Keith Ferrazzi
Published 31 Aug 2009
Making a cold call, handling an angry client, going on a tough job interview, facing a furious lover, dealing with an insolent teen: all of these can affect your emotions to the point that you can’t think clearly. And when that happens, you lose. So the first and most important rule for taking control in a stressful situation is this: get yourself under control first. (That’s why flight attendants instruct you to put your own oxygen mask on first before placing one on your child.) The good news is that getting yourself under control is simpler than you think. ■ SPEED IS EVERYTHING In reality, you probably already know how to handle a tense situation intelligently. You know exactly how to go from attack mode to emotional mode to smart mode.
Happy Inside: How to Harness the Power of Home for Health and Happiness
by
Michelle Ogundehin
Published 29 Apr 2020
Start as you mean to go on, with a plan for consideration and calm, and the day will, if not follow accordingly, be much more manageable for your having given yourself a self-supporting start. Have a routine. Notwithstanding the reality of hectic mornings, trying to persuade/order children into their clothes or downstairs in time to eat, it’s like they say on an aeroplane: put your own oxygen mask on first. If you’re grouchy from too little sleep or suffering from caffeine withdrawal, the odds are stacked against you for a streamlined start. Beyond that, have a routine that everyone buys into and decide together the family rules: for example, dressing before breakfast, or afterwards? Then be consistent.
Marriage and Lasting Relationships With Asperger's Syndrome: Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors
by
Eva A. Mendes
Published 1 Sep 2015
In any relationship, the welfare of one partner depends upon the other, and the partner with ASD would be wise to support their NS partner in this. Thus, the self-care of the NS partner cannot be underscored enough. Self-Care is Not Selfish Self-care is a necessity rather than a luxury. NS partners, especially those with kids, may often feel like their needs come last. However, the airplane analogy of putting on one’s own oxygen mask before helping others put on theirs is a good lesson for the NS partner. If they don’t take care of themselves, their partner and marriage will most definitely suffer. If they are not healthy and happy themselves, they might find it all the more challenging to cope with the challenges of being in a neurodiverse marriage.
The Capitalist Manifesto
by
Johan Norberg
Published 14 Jun 2023
Again, the assumptions of anti-capitalist pundits are turned on their head; the more you care about your own self-fulfilment, the more you are willing to put in some extra effort for others in a difficult situation.27 Researchers speculate that this may have to do with the fact that those who feel good about themselves and are not forced into self-sacrificing relationships may have more energy and will to help others – a kind of ‘put on your own oxygen mask first before assisting others’ effect. Another explanation they raise is that individualistic attitudes undermine tribal cultures and make us more prepared to help strangers as well. Experiments in many societies at different levels of development give a completely different picture of our behaviour than that given by Hertz and Björk.
Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It
by
Jennifer Breheny Wallace
Published 21 Aug 2023
As she spoke, I scribbled on my yellow notepad, nodding along. But soon I felt her staring at me, anticipating my skepticism. When I looked up, her eyes narrowed. “Why are mothers so resistant to this message?” she asked. “Why don’t they understand the importance of taking care of themselves first?” “Are you talking about a ‘put on our own oxygen mask first’ kind of thing?” I asked, thinking I finally understood her point. “No,” she said emphatically. She leaned over the table. “I’m not asking women to add yet another thing to their long to-do lists. What I’m talking about is finding people who will put that oxygen mask on for you.” I leaned back, took a sip from my margarita, and tried to process her words.
Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, and Live Fearlessly
by
Evy Poumpouras
Published 20 Apr 2020
It is something you cultivate. It is something you prioritize and practice every single day. Her daily routine was a part of that and it was nonnegotiable. She prioritized her time as a mother and she prioritized her self-care. It reminded me of the safety instructions you get on an airplane—put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else put on theirs. Taking care of ourselves is how we are fortified and able to care for others. From her I have discovered that self-worth, magnificence even, comes from the small things we do every day to show that we value ourselves. Barack Obama: MAGNANIMITY One day I was escorting President Obama through the Oval Colonnade on his way to the East Wing when a congressman approached us with his wife and children in tow.
Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed With Alcohol
by
Holly Glenn Whitaker
Published 9 Jan 2020
I didn’t tell her she was selfish or warn her that her “self-will had run riot.” I didn’t tell her not to trust herself, or that she was wrong or deluded. I didn’t tell her those things because if I had, I would have just been doing what I’d been doing to her for the last thirty years. I told her to save her life at all costs, to put on her own oxygen mask, and to put it on first. And when other people told her she was wrong, that she couldn’t trust herself, that she was selfish and deluded—I told her: Fuck them. I took her to yoga and meditation and massage and therapy. I danced her precious body around her living room, and I wrote her a million affirmations that I taped around her apartment: “You are beautiful.”
Dirty Genes: A Breakthrough Program to Treat the Root Cause of Illness and Optimize Your Health
by
Ben Lynch Nd.
Published 30 Jan 2018
In a few weeks or a couple of years, some person you gave tips to may stop you and say, “You know that thing you told me about genes? I looked into it a little further—and it’s changed my life.” By helping others reach their genetic potential, we can all make the world a better place. Before you reach out and help others, though, I want you to reach up and put on your own oxygen mask first. Today is the day you’re starting your journey to clean up your dirty genes. You deserve to reach your genetic potential. Now go for it! ACKNOWLEDGMENTS Writing a book is hard. In fact, it was impossible for me—or so I thought. I tried (and failed) many times before producing these chapters.
Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice From the Best in the World
by
Timothy Ferriss
Published 14 Jun 2017
And I still send Ian Bell a holiday card every year. My mother taught me that failure is not the opposite of success but a steppingstone to success. What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you’ve ever made? One of the best investments I’ve made is, as they tell us on airplanes, putting my own oxygen mask first—sleeping, meditating, walking, working out, etc. In 2007 I collapsed from exhaustion. After that, I made changes to my life, and became more and more passionate about the connection between well-being and productivity. A lot of people think they don’t have time to take care of themselves, but it’s an investment that will pay off in so many ways.
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
by
Nedra Glover Tawwab
Published 16 Mar 2021
Dread sets in. As a therapist, I observe poor self-care, feelings of being overwhelmed, resentment, avoidance, and other mental health issues as common presentations of boundary issues. Neglecting Self-Care We’ve all heard the analogy from airplane-safety language: “Put on your oxygen mask first before helping others.” Simple, right? Nope. Neglecting self-care is the first thing to happen when we get caught up in our desire to help others. I can’t tell you how many people show up in my office lamenting, “I don’t have time to do anything for myself.” After a quick evaluation, it becomes apparent that these people are not making any time for themselves.